Posts by Jeremy J. Lanning
On The Advice of Clients To Their Younger Selves: In 32 Parts.
At the end of 2020 I asked my clients a question. “What advice would you give now, to your younger self then?” I only questioned clients who I have been working with for at least the entire year, and clients who have been working at least as intensively but for a shorter duration. In other…
Read MoreAn Enlightened Mom Teaches The Internet A Valuable Lesson On The Upcoming School Year
I visited the internet today with the intention of watching movie trailers from my youth and instead I was enlightened and called to action. To that mom out there, thank you. I didn’t see it coming. To say that the internet and social media has become divisive, explosive, and judgmental is an understatement. Nowhere is…
Read MoreThe Purposeful Anhedonia of 90’s Nostalgia
Only now do I realize the year 2000 wasn’t the actual end of the second millennium or even the possible end of the world, it was the end of the 90’s and that seems much more tragic. In retrospect, only the 1990’s could have ended in such a blustery, cataclysmic, and disruptive way. I will…
Read MoreMarriage Baseball
When it comes to relationships, batter up because home plate is love. Here comes the pitch – it’s a fastball – out of the strike zone. Swing. Contact. Start running. The conflict has started and it’s an ascending rocket to centerfield. First base is believing the best about the other person. Second base is resisting…
Read MoreDepression: On Being Swallowed Whole
Depression: On Being Swallowed Whole To think of depression and symptoms of depression as a swallowing sludge of despair and sadness is to think accurately about the most formidable foe in the mental health world and the purpose of my writing here is to tell you that you are not alone. You are not broken.…
Read MorePodcast Companion: Session 23 – New Year, New Decade (Intentions)
Intentions + Be-Hive + Texas By John Steinbeck, from his memoir “Travels With Charley: In Search of America.” “I have said that Texas is a state of mind, but I think it is more than that. It is a mystique closely approximating a religion. And this is true to the extent that people either passionately…
Read MoreUnbelievable – Netflix, 2019 – The Most Important Show on Television
Illustration Credit – Jennifer Heuer Remember when the most difficult decision a couple could make was where to go for dinner? In 2019 the cultural consciousness has replaced that old timey dilemma with “what are we going to watch while eating dinner?” Full disclosure – I just finished watching Unbelievable, the 8 episode Netflix miniseries and…
Read MorePodcast Companion: Session 20 – Suicide
Suicide Definition CDC: Suicide is death caused by injuring oneself with the intent to die. A suicide attempt is when someone harms themselves with the intent to end their life, but they do not die as a result of their actions. What we know about suicide only comes from those who have been unsuccessful at…
Read More“Is he okay?” The First Words of a Mother
“Is he okay?” Is there anything more beautiful than the words of a mother? Is there anything more comforting than the words of a mother? Is there anything more patient than the words of a mother? Is there anything more gentle and corrective than the words of a mother? Is there anything more necessary than…
Read MoreRemembering 9/11 – Among the Unaware
It is 9/11/2019 and I am in my psychotherapy office listening to Debussy, “Suite Bergamasque, L.75: III. Clair De Lune” performed by François-Joël Thiollier. It’s a somber piece. A favorite of mine. It’s 8:40 am. 3 minutes ago on 9/11/2001, Boston’s air traffic control center alerts the Air Force’s Northeast Air Defense Sector of Mohamed…
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