Only now do I realize the year 2000 wasn’t the actual end of the second millennium or even the possible end of the world, it was the end of the 90’s and that seems much more tragic. In retrospect, only the 1990’s could have ended in such a blustery, cataclysmic, and disruptive way.  I will…

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When it comes to relationships, batter up because home plate is love. Here comes the pitch – it’s a fastball – out of the strike zone. Swing. Contact. Start running. The conflict has started and it’s an ascending rocket to centerfield. First base is believing the best about the other person. Second base is resisting…

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“Is he okay?” Is there anything more beautiful than the words of a mother? Is there anything more comforting than the words of a mother? Is there anything more patient than the words of a mother? Is there anything more gentle and corrective than the words of a mother? Is there anything more necessary than…

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It is 9/11/2019 and I am in my psychotherapy office listening to Debussy, “Suite Bergamasque, L.75: III. Clair De Lune” performed by François-Joël Thiollier. It’s a somber piece. A favorite of mine. It’s 8:40 am. 3 minutes ago on 9/11/2001, Boston’s air traffic control center alerts the Air Force’s Northeast Air Defense Sector of Mohamed…

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I came across a pair of house-boots the other day. My wife’s in fact. They were worn but sturdy. They were familiar yet imposing. They instantly conjured up vivid images of my time in the military. Weathered and beaten jump-boots, rack-side by a sleeping marine. Sturdy, slip-proof, and steel-toed boondockers, bunk-side by a sleeping sailor.…

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My Top 20 Favorite Films: In Order. Interstellar – 2014 Good Will Hunting – 1997 Lone Wolf McQuade – 1983 Star Wars – 1977 Drive – 2011 The Life Aquatic – 2004 The Departed – 2006 No Country for Old Men – 2007 To Live and Die in L.A. – 1985 Fletch – 1985 My…

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This letter is for you, my children. First and foremost know that I love you with all of my heart and all of my being, always, now more than ever, regardless of when or where this letter finds you. My heart is bursting with pride at who you are and who you’ll become. I want…

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I’m a dad… If you ask me where I am, I’ll tell you. If you ask me how I am, I’ll tell you. If you ask me who I am, I’ll tell you, I’m a dad. That’s me. That’s who I am. If you ask me why I am, I’ll tell you, I’m here to…

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My wife is just a nurse. I met my wife early in the morning, within the cold, sterile, solitude of a sleepy operating room. We were both setting up our different workspaces for the same procedure. She was a student in a Nurse Anesthesia program and I was a weathered Surgical Technologist and graduate student…

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