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“Is he okay?” The First Words of a Mother

“Is he okay?” Is there anything more beautiful than the words of a mother? Is there anything more comforting than the words of a mother? Is there anything more patient than the words of a mother? Is there anything more gentle and corrective than the words of a mother? Is there anything more necessary than…

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Remembering 9/11 – Among the Unaware

It is 9/11/2019 and I am in my psychotherapy office listening to Debussy, “Suite Bergamasque, L.75: III. Clair De Lune” performed by François-Joël Thiollier. It’s a somber piece. A favorite of mine. It’s 8:40 am. 3 minutes ago on 9/11/2001, Boston’s air traffic control center alerts the Air Force’s Northeast Air Defense Sector of Mohamed…

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The Warrior Mother Is The Sentry To Her Child

I came across a pair of house-boots the other day. My wife’s in fact. They were worn but sturdy. They were familiar yet imposing. They instantly conjured up vivid images of my time in the military. Weathered and beaten jump-boots, rack-side by a sleeping marine. Sturdy, slip-proof, and steel-toed boondockers, bunk-side by a sleeping sailor.…

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My Top 20 Favorite Films:

My Top 20 Favorite Films: In Order. Interstellar – 2014 Good Will Hunting – 1997 Lone Wolf McQuade – 1983 Star Wars – 1977 Drive – 2011 The Life Aquatic – 2004 The Departed – 2006 No Country for Old Men – 2007 To Live and Die in L.A. – 1985 Fletch – 1985 My…

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Letter To My Children

This letter is for you, my children. First and foremost know that I love you with all of my heart and all of my being, always, now more than ever, regardless of when or where this letter finds you. My heart is bursting with pride at who you are and who you’ll become. I want…

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I’m A Dad

I’m a dad… If you ask me where I am, I’ll tell you. If you ask me how I am, I’ll tell you. If you ask me who I am, I’ll tell you, I’m a dad. That’s me. That’s who I am. If you ask me why I am, I’ll tell you, I’m here to…

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My Wife Is Just A Nurse

My wife is just a nurse. I met my wife early in the morning, within the cold, sterile, solitude of a sleepy operating room. We were both setting up our different workspaces for the same procedure. She was a student in a Nurse Anesthesia program and I was a weathered Surgical Technologist and graduate student…

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The 90’s Called

The 90’s called and it has some observations to share. Some insights to make today a little bit better. “I knew all the rules, but the rules did not know me.” – Eddie Vedder Please indulge me here, this is not about nostalgia. It’s about pragmatism. I was thinking earlier today about what’s missing, in…

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To Catch a Fox

The Berkley Hunt, 1842 “The Chase.” (Oil on Canvas) By: Francis Calcraft Turner.  If I could only figure out what this painting means to me. Or meant to me. Or why it causes me to feel the way I do when I partake of it. I am standing in my bedroom, looking at this piece…

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You’re Home… So What

“It’s a funny thing coming home. Nothing changes. Everything looks the same, feels the same, even smells the same. You realize what’s changed is you.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald. What does it mean to you when your spouse comes home after a long day? That mid-day transition that often makes or breaks the rest of…

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